All I Wanna Do Is Grow Old With You: Writing Your Own Vows

Sappy or silly, heartfelt, self-written wedding vows can melt a woman’s heart and make even the toughest of men shed a tear. Whether personalized and specific, funny or romantic, listening to the bride and groom share their vows is the most anticipated part of the wedding ceremony. Gone are the days of reading scripted vows that lack personality and unique thought. If you are putting your promises on paper to recite, consider what marriage means to you, the commitments you are about to make and the feelings you have for your future spouse.

Make Promises You’ll Keep

Wedding vows are essentially a pact a couple makes to base their marriage on. These vows should include a declaration of love, an emphasis on commitment, and promises the two of you plan to keep for the rest of your lives together. The “10 Commandments of Purity,” written by Pastor Ed Young and his wife, may give you some good examples, such as remembering to continue dating after marriage and promising to think and talk positively about each other. While “for better or for worse” rings are timeless and true, more specific vows like “I promise to love you, cherish you and always watch Monday Night Football with you” are more memorable.

Set the Tone

Decide if you will write your vows together or separately. If you want to surprise each other at the wedding, send a copy of your vows to the ceremony officiant or a trusted friend. He or she can check that your vows are about the same length and a similar tone. Vows can be lighthearted, but make sure to somehow acknowledge the seriousness of the commitment you are about to make. Though in front of family and friends, your vows are ultimately just for you and your partner.

“My sweetie, my bride, wonderful things happen to those who keep trying.

Since the first time I met you, I wanted to make you happy,

even when you draw those pictures of me that show me with less hair than I like to think I have.

Now your happiness is my guide, and I will love you for every second of the rest of my life.”

– Andrew Nussbaum’s vows to his wife Darcy on

Brainstorm Your Thoughts

Spend some time reflecting on your relationship and how you’ve come to the decision to spend your lives together. What was your first impression of him or her and how has that changed or evolved? When did you first realize you were in love? What do you respect most about your partner and how has your life gotten better? Record your thoughts; you may be surprised how the answers form into the perfect words, which will create a beautiful and memorable wedding ceremony that you will always cherish.

Remember Sincerity and Timing

Though specifically written for each other, don’t make your vows so personal that the audience feels uncomfortable or left out. You’ve invited family and friends to to make your bond public, so make sure everyone feels included in the moment. This doesn’t mean you have to mention anyone, just be aware of length and be careful about how many inside references you use. Aim for about one minute or so (it’s longer than it seems) and save the rest for the reception toast.

“I promise to curate a faithful and fantastic marriage with you.

I promise to treat you with kindness, respect, appreciation and silliness.

I promise to participate in our relationship, even when it might be hard.

I promise to let you know when you are getting too arrogant at backgammon.

I promise to roll my eyes with you, and not at you.

I promise to make laughter an integral part of our family.

I promise to love you until I am extinct.”

– Jen Girdish’s vows to her husband Michael on

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